Self Care: A Discipline
You’ve heard it time and again: self care is important for surviving as an entrepreneur (and as a human). Well I don't know about you, but until I realize something on my own, I tend to ignore everyone else's advice. To be honest, it took a pretty intense emotional breakdown for me to really begin to examine the ways that I equip myself to face the world. It turned out that personal upheaval led me to finally care for my body and mind on a regular basis.
Working in a service-based industry means that the bulk of my day is dedicated to showing care to others, and I LOVE that about my job. Supporting and empowering other women gives me a sense of purpose each day. But my purpose for living cannot be other people, whether it's a partner, friends and family, or my clients. There came a day, not long after a slew of horrible things happened in my life (a divorce, a robbery, the death of a beloved family member and, finally, a friend’s suicide) that shut me down, leaving me unable to so much as leave my apartment. It was then that I realized how ill-equipped I was as a solo entity to pull myself back from the abyss, and it was then that I began the long journey of prioritizing myself.
What I’ve found, after years of tackling my own demons and finding my own methods of self-reliant comfort is that my self-care falls into three categories: daily, regular, and spontaneous. Below are some of my suggestions for each category that you can use to develop a more consistent approach to taking care of your own mind, body and heart. I hope you use this approach to discover and prioritize some of your personal rituals!
an energizing morning routine
a regular skincare routine
a relaxing bedtime ritual
positive self talk (practicing this on an ongoing basis throughout the day)
lighting the good candles ALWAYS
exercise (full disclosure, this is an ongoing struggle for me)
meditation (working to make this a daily method!)
aromatherapy (my favorite is Vitruvi!)
SEX (ahem, may I suggest including Maude)
30+ minutes of reading
face masks (they fix everything)
send a sweet note to someone you love (works every time)
Whatever it is that resonates with you, be sure that caring for yourself is a consistent priority and true to what you as an entrepreneur and artist need to feel good and cared for on an ongoing basis.